The family unit is of great importance in Islam. This is because a strong family unit is the key to a stable society and a strong foundation for the future generation of muslims. Maintaining the ties of kinship is from the best of deeds due to the saying of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ
"Learn enough about your lineage to facilitate keeping your ties of kinship. For indeed keeping the ties of kinship encourages affection among the relatives, increases the wealth, and increases the lifespan."Jami` at-Tirmidhi
With the current climate- many of us have the opportunity to spend even more time with our immediate family. We should use this as a chance to get closer to Allah and to each other. Praying together, making a family tree to learn about all of your relatives and cooking/eating together are all excellent ways to bond.
If your family live far away from you - then you can use tech to keep in touch, but it is important (present conditions excluded) to also go and actually visit them when you are able to.
Your kinship ties are not just those in your immediate family, it includes everyone related to you, regardless whether they are close or distant relatives. Your mother is the closest relative to you and the one more deserving of your kind treatment, and then your father. Do not forget them once you get married, have children and are busy working. Remember to keep in touch with them and treasure the time you have with them.
If you have strained or broken family relationships, now- as Ramadhan approaches - may be a good time to reach out and to mend broken relationships. A man said to the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ ,
“I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet ﷺ said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allaah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that”. [Reported by Muslim]
It is not enough to only keep relations with those family members who treat you well and keep in touch with you, even if they are not muslim. Abdullah Ibn Umar [radiyallaahu-anhu] said that the Prophet ﷺ said: The one who maintains a relationship with his relatives only because they maintain a relationship with him is not truly upholding the ties of kinship. The one who truly upholds those ties is the one who does so even if they break off the relationship. [Reported by Bukhaari]
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